The older I get, the more picky I am about who I allow into my life. When I was younger, I would tolerate people even if we didn’t really get along. Today, I look for those relationships that are natural and feel right. Kindred spirits fit that description.
Think about a time when you met someone and formed an immediate bond. Or perhaps you met someone and had so much in common that you quickly began sharing personal information with one another. Kindred spirits are those who we share an instant connection with. Though it defies logic, you KNOW you can trust this person. But despite that familiarity, a kindred spirit is not the same thing as a soulmate. Here’s how to tell the difference.
What is a kindred spirit?
Kindred spirits are people that you want to spend time with. Here are some potential qualities of kindred spirits:
- You have similar interests.
- Your personalities complement each other.
- You are supportive of one another. You are there for them and you know they’ve got your back.
- They are pleasant to be around. You feel safe and able to be your authentic self around kindred spirits.
- A kindred spirit could be a best friend, the colleague you’re closest to or the person you share a hobby with who truly gets you.
As great as kindred spirits may sound, they don’t hold a candle to a soulmate.
Understanding the soulmate connection
Many people long to meet their soulmate, misunderstanding what a soulmate actually is. Many believe that a soulmate is their ideal romantic partner. The truth is that you can have multiple soulmates in your lifetime.
In actuality, a soulmate is someone who comes from the same soul group as you. There’s a good chance that you’ve shared multiple lifetimes together, and you’ll likely help each other to master life lessons. A soulmate can be a romantic partner, but it can also be a parent, a friend, a sibling, a child or any other type of relationship.
So how does a soulmate differ from a kindred spirit? The soulmate relationship is much deeper. Typically soulmates share life lessons. A soulmate may inspire deep personal growth and force you to evolve in some way. Soulmates have soul connections while kindred spirits often have personality connections. You get along with a kindred spirit; you are emotionally moved by a soulmate.
On the flip side, you’re less likely to have deep misunderstandings with a kindred spirit than a soulmate. Kindred spirit relationships are less likely to have drama. You get along with the kindred spirits in our life, but you may blow up with soulmates – which incidentally provides an opportunity for growth.
If you’re hoping to meet a kindred spirit or a soulmate, know this: you can’t will such a connection. Rather, you must be open to it and alert so that you can recognize it when it comes along.