Think about someone in your life who you have an extremely strong connection to. It might be a friend who you met and instantly trusted. It might be a colleague who helped you out of a very tough work situation. It might be a romantic partner who you have not been able to shake out of your life. There’s a possibility that you may have a soul contract with that person.
When you have a strong attachment to someone, whether it is a positive attachment or a negative one, you and that person may have a soul contract. (That’s right – the person who you can’t stand who turned your life upside down could also have a soul contract with you.)
What is a soul contract?
A soul contract is an agreement made between two spiritual beings (between lives) about how they will help each other to experience a particular lesson during a particular lifetime. Any soul you make a contract with is a soulmate. Contrary to popular belief, soulmates have nothing to do with romantic entanglements. A soulmate can be a romantic interest but does not have to be.
One of the biggest signs that you have a soul contract with someone is if you learn a life lesson during your interactions with that person and vice-versa.
Say you want to learn how to honor your boundaries. You may have had a hard time saying ‘no’ in previous lives and your soul wanted to tackle that issue in your current life. Your soul could have made a soul contract with another spirit to help you to do that.
That spirit may have incarnated into someone you had a relationship with who constantly walked all over you and did not respect your boundaries. You may eventually have gotten so fed up with that person that you finally stood your ground and established boundaries with that person. In that case, your soul contract would have been honored.
At the same time, that person may have wanted to learn how to respect others in this lifetime. When you finally learned to demand respect from this person — or if you ended the relationship because of that person’s lack of respect — that may have been your way of honoring that same contract.
How to figure out a soul contract meaning
Any relationship can be a soul contract. Often soul contract relationships are characterized by strong emotions, and it’s not unusual for romantic relationships to be soul contracts. When a relationship ends, it often means that the soul contract has been honored and the two of you no longer need to engage with one another.
If you recognize that you are in a soul contract — or that a contract has just ended — take the time to learn what the contract had to teach you.
There are a number of ways you can do this.
I can never say enough how effective prayer and meditation can be when it comes to figuring out what lesson you are being shown. There are literally times in my life when I have asked ‘why is this happening to me?’ and I received an answer. Sometimes the answer just popped into my head as a telepathic thought or a claircognizant knowing. Other times, I would come across a book or watch a movie and the answer would hit me like a ton of bricks.
Another way to discover the lesson behind a soul contract is to pay attention to what makes you angry about a relationship. Anger gets a bad rap. Anger is a powerful and valuable emotion that tells us when our soul’s boundaries are being crossed.
Soul contracts are about lessons — important lessons that will aid in your evolution. As you learn from your soul contracts, you will be following the path you intended to follow in this lifetime.
One of the best resources I have come across for learning about soul contracts is the book Sacred Contracts by Caroline Myss. Myss is a medical intuitive, someone who assesses illnesses from a spiritual perspective. While she doesn’t profess to take the place of a doctor she provides insight into how certain mental, emotional and spiritual challenges a person faces can contribute to physical illness.
For example, a person who cares for others at the expense of themselves might start to regret others’ needs being met before their own. If that person does not acknowledge these feelings and begin to make changes so that they address their own needs, the resentment in their body could create stress that contributes to the development of a major medical problem.
In the book Sacred Contracts, Myss provides examples of clients she has worked with who discovered that major and sometimes traumatic events in their lives were sacred contracts designed to help them evolve spiritually and to help the divine bring healing and transformation to the world at large. In the book, she includes strategies to help you discover your own sacred and soul contracts so that you can embrace them rather than run from them. Doing so may make those experiences easier for you since the Universe ALWAYS provides the guidance you need when you are fulfilling a sacred contract.
The book also talks a lot about archetypes and how we all have certain archetypical patterns that are prevalent in our lives. These patterns can either help us or hinder us, depending upon whether we approach them in a healthy manner.